With the rise of dating and messenger apps has come the rise of ‘secret’ hook-ups and sexual exploration. Mark Munroe of We R Addicted explains why more and more ‘straight’ men have begun to let their sexual barriers down.
Ok, this article really has nothing to do with drinking and everything to do with sexuality. I often joke with friends that a lot of men are just five drinks away from having a sexual experience with another man.
The joke really doesn’t have anything to do with drinking other than the fact that it lowers your inhibitions. And with those inhibitions out of the way, you may find yourself doing something that you’ve always wanted to do, even if it’s something you would never do while sober.
So why do we make the joke a lot lately? Well, it seems that there is a big shift in the air, where the lines between gay and straight are blurrier than ever. So the question is, are men really becoming more fluid, and exploring their own sexuality? The answer seems to, in fact, be yes!
We used to think that people were gay or straight, but isn’t it all just a scale, and we are all somewhere on that scale with our likes and dislikes? If that is the case, then doesn’t that mean there are a fair number of men that fantasize about other men? That does indeed seem to be the case.
In times past, most of these men would have never entertained the idea, but now that mainstream culture is more accepting, especially in places like Canada, it seems that more and more men are taking the plunge.
This can be seen on gay dating/hookup apps, online and even in person. There are so many “straight” men nowadays that we come across in social and online and real life that will either tell you they are married to a woman or will tell you that they identify as straight. If you are on some of the popular apps, you can choose to show yourself under that label to others.
I can attest to this myself. Men who consider themselves straight will chat you up, writing something along the lines of a “bro convo” most of the time, which soon after leads into, “Hey, you’re gay right… wanna have sex?” Are they straight, are they gay, or are they just fluid and following their basic urges?
True evidence of this “mix up” if you will, is the common use of the word “fluid”. This word comes up all the time that describes someone who doesn’t have a sole direction to their sexuality. It describes men that want to be with women, men, or even both at the same time.
It really doesn’t come as much of a surprise that this shift is happening, as we seem to be more open to a lot of different ways of living, relating and the way we structure our relationships. This is evidenced even further by the fact that polyamory and the discussion around it have also become very prevalent and far more commonplace than ever.
But, and this is a big one, there are men that are still hiding the fact that they are hooking up with other men. What percentage this is would be very interesting to find out, but very hard to tell or figure out.
The reality is that there are many men that don’t find it suitable to be open about their homosexual tendencies in the current life they are living. This could in part be due to the fact they are in a relationship with a woman or their religious or cultural background – there are so many factors to consider.
Whether you’re ready to embrace it or not, be open about it or not, sexual barriers are slowly coming down. Trust me; I have a Facebook inbox full of the proof that there are a lot of men out there that are, in fact, 5 drinks away (or even less).
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