In VTV’s latest installation of “Talk Dirty to Me with Sara Starkman…” our relationship expert explains how to survive the most relationship-focused holiday, Valentine’s Day, when you’re flying solo.
If you’re single, it’s no surprise that Valentine’s Day is probably somewhere between annual physical and family reunion on your list of most dreaded dates of the year. As bright red and pink hearts decorate store windows and an arsenal of kissy-faced People’s Diamonds commercials take over every bloody bus stop en route to work, you are constantly reminded of just how single you are.
This year, try not to let the Valentine’s Day Demons (picture red-eyed cherubs with ulterior motives) get to you. And although it may be hard with the intense Hallmark advertising scheme taking over all media channels and pervading our brains with gimmicky slogans and the smell of sweet, overly processed chocolate, it’s as simple as taking what is offered and turning it into something that serves you, regardless of your relationship status.
Valentine’s Day is About Love
Who said that means romantic love? Okay… maybe Geoffrey Chaucer. But since when don’t we challenge history? Embrace the celebration of love and commemorate the holiday with friends, family or even el solo. (Nothing says, “I love you, self!” like an hour-long massage followed by a massive chocolate brownie and early night in bed. Mmm… brownie.)
Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself
Your bitchy tweets are clichéd and the bad overall energy does nothing for your prospective love life in 2014 (unless your bitchy tweets are clever – then all is forgiven). Turn off the Lilith Fair Greatest Hits and let the love in the air inspire you to get a dating profile, call that guy back that your sister wants to set you up with, or, alternately, puff out your chest and represent single life proudly. (I hear a Beyonce flash mob coming on!)
Make it the Way You Remember it from Grade School
Valentine’s Day, circa Kindergarten, used to be silly and void of all pressure or depressing matters of the heart. Bring back that magic by buying a box of chocolates to share around the office, send cards (a Rob Ford themed collection are all the rage these days) to your friends and crushes (maybe not the Rob Ford one to your crushes), host or organize a dinner (or drinks) with fellow single friends, and let Valentine’s Day live up to its hype on your terms!
After all, any day that makes wearing pink and red together socially acceptable can’t expect to be taken too seriously anyway.