The New York Times published an article, To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This, by Canadian author Mandy Len Cantron. Cantron, a professor at UBC, references a psychological study that looks at how couples can jumpstart the process of falling in love with each other via a series of 36 questions and 4 minutes of eye contact.
So, the secret is out! According to the study, this 36-question session and some serious eye contact is really all it takes to fall in love with someone. Regardless of whether they’re a stranger or not.
The process takes about 45 minutes. It starts off with the average get-to-know-each-other questions like:
- “Would you like to be famous? In what way?”
- “For what in your life do you feel most grateful?”
All before finishing off with some heavy-hitters like:
- “If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?”
- “Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?”
Follow all that with a four-minute stare-down into each other’s soul and presto! New love… hopefully.
Sounds creepy, but is it? Think about it. When was the last time you had a truly fantastic conversation? One with eye contact and not checking your phone every 30 seconds? One where you were whole-heartedly engaged in?
In an era where communication between each other is primarily via an app or social media, maybe the secret to falling in love lies in going back to the basics. No technology and really engaging in your partner and their interests. In addition to having personal conversations that get you to open up about your goals, passions, and expectations in life.
We challenge you to test this out. If you end up Falling In Love In 36 Questions, let View The VIBE know in the comments below or tweet us @ViewTheVibe.