Catch yourself crushing on a guy who is always surrounded by a group of girlfriends? Chances are he’s super sensitive and caring, or maybe he was raised with a few sisters and so gravitates to women, as opposed to men, for his friendships. But just because he’s friends with a plethora of ladies doesn’t mean you should feel intimidated. It just means you have to work on winning the gals over in order to seal the deal with him.
Tone down those wild, irrational (and not-so-admirable) thoughts about whether they’ll like you, whether or not they’ve been with the fella of your fancy, and also your crazy comparisons with these tips to win both them, and in turn him, over.
Show Interest And Get Educated
We often get caught up in our heads and create story-lines that don’t actually exist. We call this making assumptions, and many of us are guilty. When hanging out with this new guy in your life, acknowledge his female following in an easy-going, admirable tone, and show interest in finding out who his fave friends are, and all about them. By listening to him describe his buddies to you, you’ll get a better understanding of the nature of their friendship and it will also help you and your crush grow as a couple, because these conversations allow you to learn about what he looks for in the people he associates himself with.
Ask To Meet Them
Is one of his besties in a relationship? Why not suggest going on a double date with them? Is one of his faves hosting a Bachelor in Paradise house party? Grab a bottle of bubbly and head over with him to get in on the TV drama. The sooner you meet his ominous “girl friends,” the better. This will prevent any anxious/exaggerated thoughts and concerns about their relationships from developing in your head. It will also show them that he has someone in his life and will create the start of a friendship for you guys to build upon. Sure your guy should still have one-on-one time with these friends without you, as you do with your girls, but being around sometimes will show them stability in his life, and will also create healthy boundaries.
Befriend His Gal Pals
When hanging out, befriend your boyfriend’s girlfriends as you would make friends with anyone new. Notice their qualities and quirks. Talk to them. Share a bit about who you are. You may just find the gals are people you can get to like and develop your own relationships with. (As an added bonus, down the road, they may even be able to offer you insight into the man you love.) Thanks to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, et al., you guys can become quick friends with the click of a few buttons. Like his gals’ pictures, ask for a recipe for those amazing quiches you saw on one of their Instagram profiles, and let the friendships to flow naturally. Your crush might be single because past girlfriends didn’t understand his relationships with these girls, so you want to show him that not only does it not intimidate you, but that you actually admire these women as well. They won’t see you as a threat, if you don’t see them as one; plus, your crush will respect you for being realistic and understanding.
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