Welcome to fall. Kids are heading back to school, wind is in the air, the seasons are changing, and there’s this feeling of anew. I always feel like September (more than New Year’s Day) marks a new year and a fresh start. Perhaps that’s because it’s associated with back to school – but the feeling is infectious.
With this new season comes new people that enter our lives. It’s a popular month for people to make moves, both professionally and personally. If you find yourself intrigued by that fox of a new guy at your office or in your condo building, we’ve got some tried and tested tips to make you get noticed, seal a date and then some…
Make an Introduction – STAT
A funny thing happens when we’re smitten with the idea of someone. We suddenly get nervous, giddy, and lose our ability to speak. This might cause you to wait until he intros himself to you, but, if you want to get things going romantically, speak up and make an intro the moment you lay your eyes on him. Even if he’s talking to your boss and you’re passing by, say something like, “Sorry to interrupt, but I just wanted to introduce myself. I’m ________ and I ________.” (Either tell him your position at the office and where your desk is, or tell him that you live in the building and your floor number – whatever the sitch dictates.) By being confident and speaking up you’ll catch his attention, plus you’ve provided him a way to find you. Thatta girl!
If you’re in a meeting together, speak up and share ideas. If he is sharing one, compliment it in front of your colleagues. Alternatively, if you’re in the elevator together, comment on how awkward the silence is and maybe crack a joke. These things will stay in your crush’s head and will give him something to associate you with. It’s a simple tool to get your foot in the theoretical door.
Offer to Help Him Out
Whether he’s new to town or has lived here for years, a new job and/or a move are big life changes. Offer him the gift of your time and see if you can help him settle in. When doing this, solidify a set date to ensure there’s follow through. When you do this, why not pack a few beers or give him a small, under $10 gift? This little forget-me-not will show him you genuinely want to help him in his transitional time and will encourage him to reach out to you if need be. Something as simple as a monogrammed mug can do the trick.
Create a Ritual
Taco Tuesdays, Fish Fridays, watching a new sitcom together once a week… whatever your poison is, create a weekly ritual with him. Proximity breeds relationships, as does routine. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Take the time to get to know him, to create something to look forward to and you’ll have a capsule of created memories together once you or he finally goes in for the kill and you update your Facebook status to “In a Relationship.”
What are some of your tips and tricks on how to swoon the new guy? Let us know in the comments below or tweet us @ViewTheVibe.