Once we’ve hit our twentysomethings, age is just a number. So long as your love interest has similar hobbies and a similar lifestyle, he’s fair game – whether he’s 15 years your senior or not. Here are tips on how to swoon an older guy…
The more you see someone, the more likely you are to build a relationship with them. Does your crush frequent a certain spot? Are they a regular somewhere? Strike up a conversation the next time you see him. A great starter is bringing up the fact that you both frequent the same place, and asking what he does. Something this simplistic is a great way to breed familiarity. Next thing you know you guys might start sharing a table, and moving your friendly banter into something more.
Focus On Similarities
Older men are interested in someone younger if they have shared similarities, whether it’s frequenting the same bar/café/gym (as mentioned above) or whether you’re in a similar social circle. When starting to date an older guy, focus on these similarities and talk about shared experiences. This will let him to see that you’re on the same page as he is, despite your age.
My friends who are dating guys many years their senior admit that their beaus fell for them because they were playful and it added a sense of electricity and an element of surprise into the relationship. At his age, he is likely set in a routine and his dates could be routine, too. Keep the older gent on his toes by planning and suggesting dates. It may not be his first time at the rodeo, but by taking initiative and introducing him to things that you enjoy, you can in turn open up more playful experiences to him.
Be An Equal
Don’t be that girl who sits playing with her blonde locks while wearing an ill-fitting little dress, feeding your obviously older date food with your fork. Those girls are a dime a dozen and their exchange of their youth and looks for money is obvious. For an older guy to want to commit to you and respect you, you need to have respect for yourself and be an equal. If you have yet to meet, why not send him over a shot of tequila, or – if you’re at a café – a shot of espresso. On a date? Why not pay his bill while he’s in the washroom? Sure, you can dress pretty, but dress your age. Show him that you are an independent woman who can take care of yourself. Chances are he’s met younger, needy girls and it’s likely he’s been single to avoid them. Speak up if you disagree with him, challenge him if a challenge is nearing, and give him space from time to time to make him want you more.
What are some of your tips and tricks on nabbing an older gent? Let us know in the comments below or tweet us @ViewTheVibe.