You’re most likely going to attend a few weddings in your lifetime, and as a guest, you have a few (unwritten) obligations. Don’t wear white, don’t drink too much, try not to flirt too much with the bride and/or groom, and come bearing a gift. While most of the obligations are straightforward, the question of how much you’re supposed to gift at a wedding can get tricky.
According to this discussion, there are a number of factors that come into play when deciding on the amount. Some include: your relation to bride and groom, how far you traveled to attend the wedding, and how much your presence will cost the married couple-to-be. On average, most respondents agreed on $100-$150 per person and $200-$300 per couple. Plus upwards of $50 per person extra if the guest(s) is related to the bride & groom or if there is an open bar.
We decided to delve a little deeper into the topic and talk to two experts about the matter. Natalie Ho, recent bride, and lifestyle & DIY blogger of MyLittleSecrets.com, and Rebecca Chan of Rebecca Chan Weddings and Events. Check out their answers below:
What is an appropriate amount of money to give as a wedding gift (per person)? Does the dollar amount change based on your relationship with the guest?
“This really does depend but I’d say on average per guest can range anywhere between $100-$200 as a wedding gift. From my personal experience, the average for a Toronto or a comparable city seems to land at $150 per guest. If you’re having a destination wedding and you’re expecting your guests to fly out to celebrate with you, generally, a lower denomination as a wedding gift is appropriate. Their travel time and cost alone would also be considered as their wedding gift to the couple. I definitely think that the relationship does affect the amount. Very close friends, generally increase by 1/3 or double in amount. For immediate and close families, I would say the amount may increase exponentially but of course, this also depends on upbringing and financial circumstances. Gift or no gift, you should never expect to receive one. Though it is a customary practice among weddings of all sizes and cultures.”
Is it a wedding faux-pas to buy gifts off the registry?
“My only advice here is, if you do not want to receive a traditional wrapped gift, then do not have a gift registry. Though in some cultures, it is customary to gift an actual wrapped gift. From my own experience, I received a few beautifully wrapped gifts and I only registered for my bridal shower and not for the wedding. It is NEVER ok to put on your invitation that you want money instead of gifts, NEVER!!! It doesn’t matter how you phrase it, I would 100% advise against this!! And of course, always follow up with a thank you card to all your guests – gifts (or none) regardless of what type and their attendance!”
– Natalie Ho founder and author of MyLittleSecrets.ca
What is an appropriate amount of money to give as a wedding gift (per person)? Does the dollar amount change based on your relationship with the guest?
“If giving a monetary gift, it’s common to give $100-150 per guest. However, depending on your relationship with the couple, this can be more or less. If you are really close, you may be inclined to give more. If you aren’t as close and are coworkers, a gift in the lower end of the spectrum would be no less appreciated.”
Is it a wedding faux-pas to buy gifts off the registry?
“A lot of couples already live together before the wedding and have a lot of their house needs met already. However, if the couple has a wedding registry and you feel more comfortable giving a gift instead, this is never a bad option since they have already indicated that it is something they need. If you are not as close with the couple, you could get a group of friends to chip in for a larger gift. (For example, a group of coworkers may want to chip in for something larger from the team). Either way, give what you can and know that whatever you give will bless them in their new journey as newlyweds.”
– Rebecca Chan of Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events
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