Thankfully, science – in particular, the study of prairie voles, who happen to be a rare monogamous species in the animal kingdom – can teach us about how those hormones are released. Plus how we can prevent (or at least limit) their release during a casual escapade.
Oxytocin is released in high doses during sex. In women, stimulation of the cervix and breasts leads to its release. An additional release happens post orgasm. This means ladies might want to ask their partner to leave their boobs out of the situation, to lessen the release.
While you can’t really avoid the major oxytocin dumps if you’re engaging in good sex, Larry Young, a researcher at Emory University, told Broadly that you can lessen the effect by avoiding eye contact. It increases the oxytocin released and connects it strongly with the person you are engaged with.
Similarly, imagining you’re with someone else other than your current partner can help prevent associating the hormonal release with them. So this is the time when it’s totally fair to imagine you’re with Ryan Gosling or Tom Hardy. Or someone else you’ll likely never hang out with in the real world.
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