Though we’re through soaking up sun for the season, since September is here and summer has come to an end, this doesn’t mean your summer fling has to bid you adieu. If you spent some of your most memorable days (and especially eves) with a certain someone, there are ways to bring your bond to the next level, without having to say farewell. Here are our tried and tested tips on how to do just that…
Ease The Pressure
The more you push for something, the more you push it away. Instead of suddenly changing the tone of your relationship to ensure he sticks around, just keep on enjoying your time together and take it for what it is. Enjoy the journey as opposed to trying to “get the prize.”
Include Him In Your Plans
If you spent the summer spending all your time together just one-on-one, start casually including him in your plans. By having him meet your friends and fam in a comfortable environment, he’ll develop a stronger connection to you. It will also give you a better idea of whether or not he fits into your life.
Keep Your Independence
Relationships work best when you don’t have a need for them, but instead they act as a bonus to your already kickass life. Keep up your spin classes and brunch with your book club instead of dropping them for the chance of spending more time with him. Not only will you ensure not to be destroyed if things don’t work out, but he’ll be drawn to your strength and independence. “I like that clingy girl,” said no guy ever.
One-Up The Leave Behind
Chances are you both already have toothbrushes at one another’s abodes, but why not get a little more cozy and intimate. If he has a few things lying around your place or left a hoody over last time, why not clean out a drawer of yours for him, fold his shirt and put it in? He’ll be smitten by the sentiment and you’ll show him your cool with making some room for him. Like breeds like, so if you do this chances are he’ll follow suit next time you’re around. These little actions are ways to show each other you’re in no rush of getting rid of that summer flame.
Be Straight Up
I get it, you don’t want to rock the boat or have a big dramatic talk of where you stand and where things will go. And you don’t have to have “the talk,” unless you’re actually ridden with anxiety on a daily basis and catch yourself scanning his social media feeds (and the social media feeds of all the other women who have ever liked his statuses, been tagged in a status, replied to a post of his, etc.). If that’s the case, you owe it to yourself to see where you stand to ease the worrying (which you’ve created – just sayin’). Bring it up in a casual way and have no expectations. Be playful in your approach so he doesn’t feel pressured. You can say something like, “I have a total crush on you. I’m totally fan girling. Is this crazy? Should I run away so I don’t get hurt?” It’s sweet, endearing, and you’re leaving it open ended for him to share how he feels. If he ain’t down to ease your worries, say peace out and move onto a fall fling. Eff him.
Will you be taking your summer fling to the next level? Let us know in the comments below or tweet us @ViewTheVibe.