In VTV’s latest installment of “Talk Dirty to Me with Sara Starkman…” our relationship expert discusses unique places to pick someone up.
The bar’s not cutting it anymore; the club never did (don’t kid yourself); the gym is too sweaty (and you don’t want to be that one asshole dressed up while “running on the treadmill”); work is too icky; weddings are clichéd; and family functions are incestuous. Pick-up options seem pretty meek for the average person to find someone they have potential chemistry with… but that’s just it. They only seem meek.
We, as a society, are so conditioned to think that there are only certain places that are appropriate to pick people up when, in fact, that’s not true at all (except for the family function thing, that still stands). There are always going to be random house parties, BBQs or other places where wine is in reach and a host of fresh faces bob amongst the familiar, making it a relaxed enough environment for you to scope your prey and jump in for the kill (if you lost me, we’re still talking about picking people up, not hunting for sport). But those settings are always completely arbitrary and few and far between – especially when you live in Canada and a BBQ ain’t gonna happen again until the polar vortex just effs right off.
So what’s left?
The answer is… drum roll please… everywhere! Anti-climactic I know, but hey, I have a point to make – I promise. Your goal is not be on the prowl 24/7, seeing every Jo Blow or Joanna Blowanna (you like that one?) as a possibility, but to let go of the confines that restrict you from really thinking about striking up a conversation with someone anywhere else but the typical places you’re used to. If you see a cute guy or gal reading a book you love on the subway, tell them so (and hey, you already have something in common!). If you’re in line at the bakery and the person in front is taking ages, make a snarky (yet clever and tasteful) remark to the cutie behind you. When the sexy lady or lad in line at Starbucks orders your favourite dessert, tell them they’re in for a treat and see how they respond. The point is: just go for it. Don’t talk someone’s ear off, and don’t keep at it if the person doesn’t respond. But I’ve gone on dates with a fair number of gentlemen I’ve simply shared numerous smiles with on the streetcar, or laughed with at someone else’s expense when at the grocery store (oh c’mon… we’re all human!).
Great things come from the most random experiences at the most unexpected times. Be open, be positive, and you may never have to bring someone home from the club again.
Do you have a tried and tested place to pick someone up? Let us know in the comments below or tweet us @ViewTheVibe.