Earlier this month it was reported that Kourtney Kardashian, 38, has been casually seeing 24-year-old former-boxer Younes Bendjima. This week, Goldie Hawn publicly commented on her daughter Kate Hudson’s, 38, much-reported fling she had last year with Nick Jonas, 24.
Hot, successful, powerful, playful, thirty-something women dating twenty-something men, is nothing new. But with powerhouse celebs like Kardashian and Hudson stepping out with boy toys in tow, it opens the conversation about age difference, and what it means when someone in her thirties dates someone in their twenties.
These women are showing us what we should have been talking about for years: age doesn’t matter – it’s all about the connection.
So what does that mean? Does dating younger men mean that they’re just a hot piece of meat? Does it mean your relationship will be more playful and less serious? Does it mean that they’ll try even harder to impress you and be more open to direction? Probably, because with age comes more years to grow and learn tough lessons from this thing we call life. But despite these perks, the allure of the younger man has nothing to do with age at all.
It’s meeting the right person at the right time who you connect with, have great chemistry with and fall for. As we grow up, age becomes less and less of an issue. What matters is that you’re on the same page about where you stand and what your expectations are. It’s about knowing you’re with someone for the right reasons.
When asked about his short-term relationship with Hudson, Jonas told Complex magazine “Kate’s incredible. We had an unbelievable connection as two humans who just admire things about each other, and see something in each other that’s beautiful.”
If I look back to where I was in my early to mid-twenties, I was a completely different person. My communication with my then-boyfriend was terrible, as was his, and our relationship became toxic because neither of us were saying what we really felt.
Now that I’m in my thirties – and because I do what I do for a living – I’m always straight up and communicative with whomever I’m dating, no matter their age. It’s being able to communicate your wants, needs, issues and problems – and having the person you’re dating respond in a respectful way.
Younger guys admire this and appreciate it. Especially because when women are in their thirties, they tend to know what they want, what works for them and what they deserve. There are no games. There’s no bullshit. A mature younger guy not only admires this, but aspires to find a strong partner in turn.
At the end of the day, in a healthy relationship, both partners want to make the other partner happy. Being in my thirties, I know what I want and what my boundaries and expectations are in a relationship. If I express that as it happens, a person can meet those expectations.
Would you consider dating down? Have you ever dated a younger man? Let us know your thoughts in the comments or tweet us at@ViewtheVibe.