New Year, New Positions

In VTV’s latest installation of “Talk Dirty to Me with Sara Starkman…” our relationship expert explains how to celebrate the new year by introducing new positions in the bedroom.

So here it is, lucky year number 2014. Just typing that number makes me feel new age, like a Jetson. It’s true. We are officially living in a very modern, futuristic society with options and information aplenty. So much so that with every New Year we are able to shake things up and explore new territories to keep our lives fresh and fulfilling. And what better place to start this year than in the bedroom? Now I’m not talking about space suits in the sac or robot role-playing (unless that’s your fetish, in which case, may the force be with you), but instead, perhaps putting some efforts towards giving your sex life a face-lift, alongside whatever else you’re attempting to try out this year (kickboxing, cooking classes and so forth).

After January 1st, people are typically feeling the extra poundage, general resentment towards having to go back to work and the family members who overstayed their welcome during the holidays while simultaneously exhausted and focused on throwing themselves back into the swing of things with a vengeance, that bettering their boom-boom gets thrown to the back burner. And hey, I get it. You feel weighed down by all of those Christmas puddings, winter is making you sleepy, and you have those Spanish classes to sign up for even though you don’t really want to. The point is, working to keep things fun in the bedroom is important and will actually not only make you feel sexier, happier, and more energized (sex burns calories and releases endorphins, ladies and gents) it’s probably the easiest resolution to keep!

Now that I’ve convinced you to make time to throw some cayenne pepper on your love life (not literally, that could burn you in very, very sensitive places), here’s how to do it easily…

Initiate sex somewhere outside of the bedroom. Whether that’s in the shower (please be mindful of water usage), the living room floor (a personal favourite), or behind a snow bank on your boulevard, when it comes to spicing up sex, like real estate it’s all about location, location, location.

Bring in props. Many of us use props in the beginning of our relationships – handcuffs, vibrators, ice cubes, blindfolds – and then we get lazy and just use our hands. And as much as hands are great, sometimes all it takes is some chocolate body paint (or in my case, melted Chipits) and you’ve got yourself a triple orgasm and dessert rolled into one. Score!

Try to be more open-minded and creative in general. Google is your friend. Take some time to light candles and make a sensual playlist for your partner. Take a bath together and bring along a bottle of wine. Cook dinner in just an apron. Pick up a sexy dating game to play (sober or intoxicated, we’re not judging). Wake each other up in an exciting way (interpret that however you like). Grab the Kama Sutra to look at together (there are so many positions you’re bound to find at least one new one that you’re both comfortable trying). Or maybe even watch some sultry x-rated videos (try x-art.com, its completely tasteful and erotic… you can thank me later).

Whatever you do this New Year, just make sure you don’t neglect the nookie! Trust me, I’m a love doctor.