Sex & the 6ix: First date FAIL #stoodup

Sex & The 6ix is our new weekly Sunday dating column in collaboration with Canadian dating expert Jen Kirsch. Every week watch two people get to know each other and predict if the relationship will bloom or if it looks like an epic fail. This week is the first edition and to our dismay, our hunky guy got stood up! Can we say #firstdatefail ?

Can you believe it? The very first Sex & The 6ix date—we know you were all waiting with bated breath—and the guy gets stood up! The date was scheduled, the weather was cooperating, and Mike (pictured quite handsomely below) was waiting. Unfortunately, his match didn’t show up. So, we and the good folks at Fonda Lola hustled and scouted the room to find another suitable single lady, but magic doesn’t happen at the drop of a hat. That said, read his Q&A with Jen below and check out how cool this guy is.

Meet the Dater(s)

Here’s Why Jen Set These Two Up…

When curating a match, it’s important to ensure there’s a commonality, since like attracts like. It could be a common hobby like yoga, or a lifestyle like being vegan. In this case, both the datees indicated they’re musicians, and that they travel a lot so aren’t looking to settle down—but both are open to meeting someone and seeing where it goes. Something like travel could be a deterrent for a more dependent type, but this puts them on equal playing ground.

Right off the bat I know they’ll have something they’re passionate about to discuss (music and travel.) They’re both extroverts, and after doing a quick Google search and watching them each perform, they definitely both love being in the spotlight. I think they’d be able to keep one another on their toes—and isn’t that just the ultimate?!

BUT – one half of this pair didn’t show up so we deleted her bio and are leaving this hot guy open to the ladies of Toronto… read on about why Mike is such a fantastic catch.

Here’s Mike’s interview with Jen the next morning…

When did you have a feeling that she wasn’t coming?

At about 10 after. I had the thought “Oh, that’s funny. Shes not here.” Then I had that feeling “What if she’s not coming!” I wasn’t worried about being stood up, because she doesn’t know me, so I couldn’t take it personally. The patio at Fonda Lola is pretty small and intimate and I had a feeling that all the people on the patio knew I was waiting for a date that never came. I wanted to tell people on the patio that it’s ok, it wasn’t me getting rejected per se — “it was a blind date.”

She messaged me from her icloud. Realistically,  I thought that this could be an excuse. I don’t know her and I wouldn’t pin it on her. Maybe she just got cold feet and thought she didn’t want her picture in a magazine. Maybe she didn’t feel she had to commit to it. Particularly because she didn’t text me from her cell phone, possibly so I couldn’t get back to her. I don’t blame her to be cautious. There was definitely no intent to reschedule. It wasn’t I couldn’t make it today, lets try for another day. My partial reaction was maybe she doesn’t want to do this. I presume what she’s saying is the truth but if it is true it would be nicer if she sent me a message at 5 o’clock. I certainly don’t have any assumptions, I don’t just to those sorts of conclusions of people. But I am a human being and we analyze.

Yet you decided to stay, anyways. Were you hoping to find a replacement bae or perhaps, lay?

The owner (Eduardo) said Queen street  is crawling with people, and offered to literally go out and find me someone to have a date with. He met a girl who had a blind date too and she told if it doesn’t work maybe she’ll come back. He did bring me a necessary tequila shot when I told him the date wasn’t coming after all, due to a family emergency.

Were there any pretty, young things on the patio that tickled your fancy? Nothing turns a woman on like a sexy musician being stood up. We thrive on playing the sympathy card.

I stayed a lot longer than I anticipated. There were two friendly women who work in the city but live out of it, they were colleagues super down to earth, laid back, very much like me. They were sitting at the table next to me and they figured out the story, when I told Eduardo that I heard she wasn’t coming. We loved about it, like “Of course she’s not coming.” Tragic timing. Eduardo came and hung out too and brought me a tequila. Super nice guy. They all thought it was hilarious, not hilarious that the woman I was meant to meet lost her uncle, they just thought it was comedic timing. Very empathetic, understanding. Funny turn of events, it’s a blind date, not a random one but for a magazine. A very laughable laugh it off shit happens, how can you anticipate this sort of thing. Nothing insensitive to the fact that he died, but more of “Of course he died! Perfect timing!” Very interesting for them. They were keen on not wanting to intrude but they heard and he acknowledged it right away and next thing you know we’re just talking about life for an hour, I gave them my card and they’re planning on coming to my next gig in Toronto.

The idea of a blind date was as foreign to them as it was to me. So we bonded over that.

So suffice to say you didn’t get laid, but you had a good time?

All and all it wasn’t a loss for me. You get in a conversation – I never know what’s going to happen. I never go on a blind date but why not. When things go bad you get to learn lessons on humility. Not that things went all bad. I wasn’t in an awkward position by any means. It turned out to be a more of a good night that I anticipated when I found out she wasn’t coming. I’m sure what she’s going through is a lot heavier than I did.

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